O’s Opinions

I am still not quite myself, but each day it gets better and better. Life does move on, and you either go with it or get left behind.

I thought since I am still not quite ready to begin my regular blogging , I would showcase a rising new writer that has shown a knack for poetry. Here’s where I show my Proud Parent Syndrome, or PPS, as my brother calls it. The young writer in question is my younger daughter and she wrote such a good poem that her teacher brought it to the principal’s attention, who then decided that it should be published in the school newsletter.

Judge for yourself!

Spaghetti

Spaghetti is in a bowl.
I slurp it up.
The meatballs are giant.
Stinky cheese on the meatballs
Lots of tomato sauce
The noodles dance with the meatballs
They scream not to get eaten
Too late!

Not bad for a seven-year-old!

• Master Manipulators I have been thinking a lot about manipulation lately. I've decided that I am relatively easy to manipulate because I tend to be a "people pleaser" and avoid conflict. This causes me many problems in my life, because I am often influenced, controlled, coerced or taken advantage of. I am......
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• Five Phrases My Husband Hates to Hear Coming Out of My Mouth My last two blogs tackled some serious, contentious issues, so I decided to keep things light this time around.  I thought I would share with you the things that I say and do that my poor, long-suffering husband has to put up with. 1. "You know, I was thinking..." I......
• "The Rosary Incident" I was sitting at my computer thinking about my next blog and was wondering what topic I would tackle this time.  The last one, "Homophobia", was a heavy, emotionally charged topic and took a lot of thinking to produce.  I was at a loss what to do next, so I asked my......
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I have returned to blog another day. Things have been emotionally difficult for me since my last post, and every time I tried to write, my voice got tangled in so many feelings that I couldn’t find my voice.

My mother passed away on December 27 after a nearly four year battle with cancer. It has only been in the last week or so that I have started to move forward in the grief process and have started to feel a bit like my old self. I am not going to write about this process yet, as it is all still too fresh and close to my heart at this time.

I have been making jewellery and various crafts and have decided to start selling them online. In the next few days, a new page will be available on hardertofind.net that will be called “O’s Oddities”. I will be setting up a Pay Pal account and will ship items to Canada and the U.S.

I hope to return to blogging soon. I also hope you will have a look at “O’s Oddities” once it is up and running and like what you see. Take care, people, life is too short to waste.

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Hello dear readers. I have been terrible at keeping my posts current. There are all the regular excuses of being busy, Christmas is coming up, blah, blah, blah. It affects everyone and you are not interested in hearing the excruciating minutia of my life.

There is another reason for my lack of contribution to the garbage floating around on the internet. My mother has been terribly ill. This is not new, but she is a very private person and I have respected that by not posting anything about her condition. Enough said.

I needed to tell you this in order to explain what is going with me. I haven’t posted because I don’t know what to say. It is so difficult to express the turmoil that is going on inside and the overwhelming feelings of helplessness, guilt, grief and sadness.

My mother is one of the strongest people I have ever met. She is smart and funny, talented and creative. Everything that I could ever hope to be. She has been a rock in my life, even though I spent about a decade thinking she was crazy and had no idea what was going on with me. You know, typical adolescent that knows more than anybody else that ever lived.

Life really is too short. Most people, me included, rush about their daily routines, rarely stopping to appreciate all the good things they are missing. Simple things, like spending time with family and friends and valuing what we have, instead of desiring the next best thing.

In this season of peace and good will toward men, whether you celebrate Christmas or not, stop and reflect on the good things in your life and be conscious of what you have before it is gone.

• Love Yourself and Other People Will Love You, Too! The key to successful interpersonal relationships is having a good relationship with yourself.   For many people though, possessing the right amount of self-love is an extremely difficult task.   We all know individuals that have large egos and appear very self-confident.   These people seem to breeze through life with few barriers or issues.   On the......
• Condoms An old friend of mine from high school, LG, is a sexy little sexual education nurse for a clinic here in our city.  L, if I got your exact title wrong, I apologize!  Anyway, today on Facebook, she posted: "Irony: 90 people get the Swine Flu and everybody wants to......
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I am no angel, and have never claimed to be. Those of you that know me in person know exactly what I am saying. I’ve always been a curser (not cursor; sorry, little computer pun) and this is completely okay in my family. My parents cursed, and I even heard my grandmother curse on many occasions. No big deal as long as you are responsible.

This means appropriate behaviour at those important times and in those important places. I generally have very few problems with this, but at times things slip out. I was so embarrassed today, when one of those slips happened.

I was listening to tunes on my iPhone when the phone rang. This has never happened to me before, but I always wondered what happened in these instances. I found out today. The music shuts off and you are instantly on the phone.

I was muttering to myself out loud, “Aw, f**k, who is phoning me now?”, and I got a response. “It’s Nurse Ratchet from the Winnipeg Regional Health Authority following up on your H1N1 status”. Oh no, she heard me! I was mortified! I wanted a hole in the floor to open up and swallow me.

So, I’m talking to this woman and trying to be super polite. All I can think is, do I apologize or let it go? She just kept on talking and talking and I couldn’t find an opportunity to say anything. After a minute or two, I felt like it would make it even worse if I apologized for cursing at her. What else could I do?

Now I have to careful even when I’m talking to myself. Damn technology.

• Condoms An old friend of mine from high school, LG, is a sexy little sexual education nurse for a clinic here in our city.  L, if I got your exact title wrong, I apologize!  Anyway, today on Facebook, she posted: "Irony: 90 people get the Swine Flu and everybody wants to......
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Ugh. Well, I am back, in case anyone missed me. I had the H1N1 flu and the seasonal flu shots about two weeks ago.  I either was incubated with the H1N1 virus before the vaccine, or had a severe reaction it. The medical system can’t determine which, but the doctor said it didn’t really matter, I was sick either way.

After days of feeling like complete crap and a round of antibiotics, I finally feel well enough to concentrate on something for more than three minutes. And what fun we have had.

I was so irritable, I actually had a little fit of road rage the other day. We were driving home on Sunday afternoon and traffic was crazy because the big football game just ended. There were people and cars everywhere, cutting others off and just being ignorant. One woman was being particularly b*tchy and started yelling at us and dropping the “f-bomb”. I looked at her with a huge grin on my face and gave her a DOUBLE middle-finger salute.

This is uncharacteristic of me, not because I am a pleasant and meek person, but because I am afraid that someone like Jack Nicholson will jump out of a car with a golf club and use it. Oh well, aren’t you allowed to be irritable when you aren’t feeling well?

I have every right to be touchy. Kids take advantage of you when you are not feeling well. My darling second child volunteered to brush my hair. After a minute or two, I looked to see which brush she was using because it felt funny. Since when is, “Get that cat comb off my head!” a rational response? What normal human being thinks they will ever utter that sentence? Only a mother. A sick mother.

This same child is the one that chatters non-stop. Normally, this is tolerable, but the other day she was giving me a windy discourse of her thoughts. I actually said aloud, “Wow, even your inner dialogue is long-winded”. Good thing she had no idea what I was talking about.

Oh well, I’m starting to feel much better. Hopefully I can find more strength to get things done and be a better parent. My child in elementary school thinks that Dr. Frankenfurter from Rocky Horror Picture Show is handsome. What kind of mother lets a six-year-old watch that movie? It’s my own fault. It was Halloween and I was tired.

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I have been thinking a lot about manipulation lately. I’ve decided that I am relatively easy to manipulate because I tend to be a “people pleaser” and avoid conflict. This causes me many problems in my life, because I am often influenced, controlled, coerced or taken advantage of.

I am certainly quite capable of standing up for myself. It’s just that in many situations, I will allow myself to be finagled to avoid confrontation or conflict with another person.

I’m not saying I’ve never manipulated someone, ever, because I believe that we all have. I just try not to be that type of person. Sometimes this is not so easy, though, as we all have some sort of power over people and use it to our own advantage.

Some people are master manipulators. I’m sure we all have at least one of these people in our lives. They are button-pushers and know exactly what to say and do to get what they want. They tend to be very charismatic, and people are often drawn to them. They seem fantastic outwardly, but once you get a glimpse of what is inside, it is hard to see them as anything other than an emotional bully. This is what I imagine people like Hitler and Jim Jones must have been like.

These people make manipulation a way of life, and use it to gain professional favours and forward their careers, as well as on a personal level to influence friendships and intimate relationships. I liken these people to Svengali and find that their behaviour is abusive, even if it is subtle, and can be alluring to people that are unaware of what is happening.

Do you have some one like this in your life?  Do you let yourself be manipulated by this kind of person?  It’s pretty hard not to.  If you let these people know that you are “onto them”, they will often become angry with you because they are embarrassed, ashamed and they believe they will always get away with their behaviour.  It’s not pleasant for them to be discovered as a phony.

So how do we deal with master manipulators?  I am learning to deal with conflict and not be afraid of it.  This is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do in my entire life.  Styles of communication are very difficult to change and it is not easy to change the way we react in situations.  Am I ever going to be able to deal effectively with master manipulators?  I hope so!

Do you have any ideas, tips or tricks on how to deal with these situations?  I’d love to hear from you!  Please leave a comment, or you can email me at donig@mts.net.  I can also be reached on my Facebook fan page or Twitter.

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I have been a terrible blogger. I have been so busy lately, I haven’t had a chance to write any new posts. I was hoping something interesting or funny would happen with my family over the Thanksgiving weekend, giving me some fresh material, but no such luck.

My wedding anniversary is just after Thanksgiving, so this time of year and the change of season makes me reflective and contemplative. I have always considered myself incredibly fortunate to have been born in Canada. When I look at how many people in this world live in poverty and war-torn countries, I am grateful that by pure chance of birth, I have been given so many opportunities that they will never even know exist.

I am grateful that I have such an awesome husband who lets me be who I am, without expecting me to change. He tolerates my nonsense with a smile on his face. He knows what I like and dislike. He tries his best to make sure that I have what I like and gets rid of as many of my dislikes as he possibly can. I am very lucky to have a person like this in my life.

I have two beautiful children that have only suffered mild childhood illnesses and are capable of anything that has been put to them to this point in their lives. I am grateful that I can raise them in a healthy, safe environment, with good health and education systems.

I am appreciative for my extended family and all my great friends that love and support me. I have a good job and nice home, full of pretty things. I have a large selection of shoes and clothes to wear, and don’t have to worry about dressing in a manner that is considered appropriate for my culture. I have freedom of choice.

Canadian readers, I know Thanksgiving was a week ago, but think about all the wonderful things in your lives. American readers, this is an opportunity for you to think of some fantastic things to say when your Thanksgiving rolls around. For readers from the rest of the world, pretend you are celebrating Thanksgiving (without all the yummy food) and think about what you have in your life that you are grateful for. I think most of you will be surprised at how full your lives are and how lucky you really are.

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As a somewhat serious writer, I often write down ideas when they come to me.  I then later look at some of these “brilliant ideas” and wonder how the hell I ever thought I could write a whole post based on some of these ideas.  Some of them are pretty entertaining, though, so I thought I would share them with you.

• I once asked my younger daughter what she thought I should write a post about.  She suggested aliens. 
• I often hear the unedited version of a song and think “I like the radio version better”.  That’s how you know you are getting old.
• My husband once did a Prince imitation that was so funny I almost peed my pants.  If you know my husband, picture it.
• I also told him once that he is spiteful and vindictive.  His reply was “That may be so, but you are just spiteful”!  Good one.
• My younger daughter was reading a book out loud and was supposed to say “he puckered up”.  It came out as “he pucked up”.  She had no idea why mom and dad were laughing so hard.
• The little darling was playing with Play-Doh the other day.  She showed me her creation and I nearly died.  It looked like a purple vagina.  That is not what it was supposed to be.
• My husband watches “Daisy of Love” and calls it his guilty pleasure.
• He once called me a “good-looking older woman” and thought it was a compliment.
• My daughter videotaped my husband shaking his butt to a Kanye West song once.  He now thinks he should be a contestant on “So You Think You Can Dance Canada”.  Yeah, next auditions, look out!

I had a lot more written down, but once I looked at them out of context, many of them made absolutely no sense!  I know, I know, that isn’t like me at all.  Take care, dear readers!

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Have you ever done something that you knew, even before you started, that it was going to make you look like an idiot, but you went ahead and did it anyway? I do it all the time, but I think I’ve really taken the cake this time.

I hate waiting for people. I have absolutely no patience when it comes to waiting. I get really antsy and will often just go ahead and do what I was going to do by myself. And once I get an idea in my head, that’s it, I must act on it.

I’ve talked before about the non-stop renovations and “projects” that happen in my 102-year old home. We’ve been working on the basement off and on for several months and I really want to get it done before winter. I went downstairs and started clearing away some of the construction mess and arranging the rugs and furniture in one area. I sold the tv that was down there and wanted to move the one from my bedroom. That went off without a hitch.

Here’s is where I get stupid. There was a very large dresser upstairs that I wanted moved to the basement for quite some time. The stairs in our house are narrow and it is difficult to move furniture up and down. I got tired of waiting for my husband to help me and decided that I could move it myself. I took all the drawers out and got it fairly easily down the first flight of stairs. The stairs leading to the basement are EXTREMELY narrow, but I thought I had it all figured out.

I got down to the landing and started to try to turn the dresser to go down the rest of the stairs. I knew some manoeuvring would be required and was doing quite well. Suddenly, oh no, it’s not moving any more. I am stuck. The dresser got wedged and I couldn’t budge it an inch. I tried for a few minutes and then decided that I would go do some work until my husband got home. That was fine, but after about an hour, I needed to pee. We have no bathroom in the basement.

I kept on working, hoping the feeling would go way (yeah, right), then about a half hour later I realized that I could boot up the computer in the basement and email my guy on his Blackberry! Brilliant! I sent the email, making sure I stressed that this was not a joke. I could hear him trying to text me on my phone, but couldn’t get to the phone. I had to email him again, reminding him I couldn’t answer my phone since I was trapped in the basement.

When he got home about twenty minutes later, I could see how much of an idiot I was by the look on his face. The one that expresses all the suffering I put him through with my need for independence and the desire to prove that I can do whatever I damn well please. The look that says “did you honestly think you were going to pull this one off, Wile E. Coyote”? Boy, did I feel stupid. We had to use a hammer to break apart the dresser so that I could finally get out of the basement. The crappy dresser I’ve been dragging around for a couple of decades is no more.

And now I have to walk around like a dog with my tail between my legs for being so stupid when I really knew better. Good thing my husband has a good sense of humour. I am never going to live this one down.

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I have never discussed about politics (per se) before and I never intended to.  For all the people living outside of Canada, if you have no interest in Canadian politics, you can leave now, unless you want to read one of the incoherent rants that I am famous for.

For those of you that are unaware, Canada has been governed by a Conservative minority government for the past few years. I have never supported or voted for a Conservative government, and my views right now are surprising.

I live in a very strong, urban NDP riding and proudly vote this way, even if it is seen as a wasted vote, because my NDP MP is a powerful woman with an excellent record in Parliament.  I have strong leftist leanings (child of two “Pierre Trudeau bleeding hearts liberals”), even though I believe that politics, like religion, shouldn’t be talked about because it causes a lot of bad blood.

Today I read an article regarding Canadian politics that really made me angry.  It appears that Michael Ignatieff, the leader of the Liberal party, has voted against the Conservative government on two issues, that in this economy, makes a lot of sense to make a stronger Canada.  Don’t get me wrong, I am not supporting the Conservative government, but come on! We have got to make sure we are creating a stronger Canada to tough the economic times.

First, the Liberals voted against a tax credit that will go to homeowners that have done renovations to their home within the last tax year.  I can’t believe that I am agreeing with the “right”, but this makes sense, to both stimulate the economy and give people a break on their taxes at year end.

The second thing that the Liberals are opposing is a condition to the Employment Insurance and long-term workers.  I don’t pretend to understand half of what is going on because I have only a passing interest in politics, but again, this makes little sense in the struggling economy. 

Are the Liberals trying to totally screw any chance they ever have of regaining power?  What the hell are they thinking?  If they ever want the average Canadian tax-payer (which is most of us) to ever vote for them again, why are they making the Conservatives look good?

I can’t believe that I am backing the Conservatives over the Liberals.  The Liberal Party has completely fallen apart and has become a joke.  How do they ever expect to govern the country again with such bad decisions?  In my opinion, the NDP should change their name like the old Reform party did.  It worked for them.  They’ve been governing the nation for a while now.  I’m just saying.

Now I know why I called my blog “O’s Opinions”.

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